I've always wanted to own my own bookstore/coffee shop, and this is what I want to call it. I actually hate cherries, except fresh Bing cherries. But honestly, a hot fudge sundae is not complete without a cherry. It's just that extra topping that makes it perfect. And that's what I want out of life...all the extras that God gives to make it "perfect" or at least a little closer to heavenly.

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Help!

Someone very dear to me recently wrote me that she always feels guilty as a mom...wondering if she's doing the right things, spending enough time with her child, feeding them right, etc. She asked me "What do you do to reassure yourself that you're doing a great job?" So I'm posting that question into blog land? Talk to me!

5 comments:

2 Little Lights said...

I think every mom feels the same way! If you are asking yourself those questions...then you're a great mom:)

Please be reassured that you are not alone! So many times I lay awake at night wishing I had made the day different, feed them healthier, taught them something new, cuddled them more, or spent more quality time together. Being a mom is a difficult journey! But we have the best blessing in the world...being a mom.

Don't feel guilty!!! Wake up each day knowing that you will give all your love even on the bad days, and we all have them. Believe me I know! I was ready to stick a pacifier in my 6 and 8 year olds mouths today from whining! And I am really surprised the fire department was not called from the fire balls that rolled off my tongue out of frustrations.

You are doing a great job because your child calls you mommy everyday! And a mommy is everything to them:)

3 wonderful gifts said...

Hey Randi I was reading some of our Worship team Pastors blog and thought that this might help. As long as your friend trains up her children by Gods word then she's being the best mother that she can be but if she's having doubts then just remember this

God is good...
Most of the time, it seems like I hear preachers saying that we should never talk about ourselves as being unworthy. True, we are somebody in Christ; but I can't help but think about the fact that even though I mess up, even though I struggle, even though there are times that I want to give up, HE is still there. Loving me. Helping me. Encouraging me to simply get up and go on.
No matter what anyone says, I know how truly unworthy that I am to have an Almighty God who loves me, in spite of me. What would I do without Christ? How would I make it if He were not there for me to lean on in my tough times?
God is good.
In the small things that He allows me to see happening in my life while I am caught up in the big things. God is good.
In the ways that I can feel Him even in the middle of my pain, or loneliness; God is good.
Psalm 106:1 says, "Praise the Lord, oh give thanks to the Lord for He is good. For His mercy endures forever."
I need Jesus! I need the goodness of God in my life, now more than ever. Who could ever be a rock for you like our God can?
Today know, that God is good; and His mercy truly does endure forever.

Pastor Larry


hope this helps

robbieniccum said...

I definitely have not met a mom yet that does not feel this way!

I think the "magic" word is BALANCE
and that is the hardest word in the universe...there is a time for everything
time to play
time to clean
time to cook
time to relax
time to read to your kids
time to read for fun while waiting for your toenails to dry
time to eat healthy
time to eat for fun
the only thing I don't think there is time for, is guilt!
We are doing our best! and even on the days that we don't give it our all...we are still okay.....

My new motto as of right now
HAPPY MOM HAPPY KIDS : )

This coming from the hardest on herself mom in the world ; P

Vicki said...

Guilt is a paralyzing emotion! When my kids were small I would never pick up a parenting book because I was already parenting with guilt and reading a book about all the things I wasn't doing right was overwhelming to me. You ladies are so lucky to have supportive friends who encourage you in your parenting. With everything I've been through my adult children and blaming myself over and over, I've finally concluded that I did the best job I could and now my kids tell me I'm a great mom. Just not a perfect one! I think teaching them about God's word, how to have a personal relationship with Jesus and how to love God and others is most important. All the other stuff is just guilt feeders. It is true that "more is caught than is taught". I'm glad that my kids caught some good stuff in the midst of my imperfections. God is good. I say enjoy them Today!!

The Loftis Family said...

Randi - How are you, girl?! I saw your blog from Amy's and thought I would take a peek. You have a beautiful family. It was so good to hear what you've been up to.
I don't know if I have a good answer to your question but I too, wonder that all the time. I agree with the person who said, if you're asking that, then you're a great mom. I always worry about what I feed them, how much, when I should start doing this or that with them, etc. But the most important thing is teaching them about the Lord. If we seek his wisdom and guidance, then I think He will lead us. A lot of the things we worry about are really minor in the big picture of things. Well, I went on and on. So good to get in touch with you again. Don't be a stranger.
We are actually expecting our # 3 in January!
Love ya girl
Kaylee